7 Body Language Mistakes You’re Making Without Realizing It
When you think about communication, you probably focus on what you say.
But here’s the truth: your words only tell half the story.
The other half is told through body language — the silent signals your body sends without you even noticing.
The problem?
Sometimes, those signals might be sending the wrong message, even if your words are right.
Let’s uncover 7 common body language mistakes you might be making — and how to fix them so you appear more confident, approachable, and trustworthy.
1. Poor Eye Contact
Mistake: Avoiding eye contact can make you seem nervous, dishonest, or disinterested. On the flip side, staring too much can feel intense and intimidating.
Fix: Maintain natural eye contact about 60–70% of the time. Look at the person’s eyes for a few seconds, then briefly glance away to keep things comfortable.
💡 Pro Tip: If direct eye contact feels awkward, look at their eyebrows or the bridge of their nose — it feels the same to them.
2. Crossed Arms
Mistake: Folding your arms may make you look defensive, closed-off, or unapproachable.
Fix: Keep your arms relaxed at your sides or use open hand gestures when speaking.
💡 Pro Tip: Hold a pen, coffee cup, or notebook to naturally keep your posture open.
3. Slouching
Mistake: Poor posture gives the impression of low confidence, low energy, or disinterest.
Fix: Stand or sit up straight with your shoulders back. This instantly makes you look (and feel) more confident.
💡 Fun Fact: Studies show that good posture can actually boost your mood and concentration.
4. Fidgeting Too Much
Mistake: Playing with your hair, tapping your foot, or clicking a pen distracts others and signals nervousness.
Fix: Keep movements slow and intentional. Rest your hands loosely in your lap or on the table when not gesturing.
5. Weak or Overpowering Handshake
Mistake: A limp handshake can signal insecurity, while an overly strong grip can feel aggressive.
Fix: Aim for a firm handshake lasting 2–3 seconds, paired with a smile and eye contact.
💡 Virtual Tip: On video calls, replace a handshake with a confident smile and wave.
6. Blank Facial Expressions
Mistake: A poker face can make you appear bored or disengaged.
Fix: Let your expressions match the conversation — smile naturally, nod when you agree, and show genuine interest.
7. Invading Personal Space
Mistake: Standing too close can feel intrusive, while standing too far may seem distant.
Fix: Keep about an arm’s length in professional settings. Notice cues — if someone leans in, they’re comfortable; if they step back, give them space.
